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Forgiveness … ITs hard isn’t it ? Its hard to forgive others and even harder to forgive yourself for something.
We have all been in a situation or done something, that we may be ashamed of, or wish it hadn’t happened. We may have done things that make us feel rather rubbish, but it may be for the right reason. We may feel guilt about something and have flash backs, or we think constantly about the situation, it can consume us.
The truth is, we are not perfect, no one is. We all make mistakes and in fact, it is normal, to make mistakes in our life. It would be a sad place if everything was completely perfect, it would be at tad boring really.
Have you ever heard of the that old saying, one door closes and another door opens and wondered what exactly does that mean?
I love a quote and it makes me stop, think and reflect !
When something happens to us, we often think why! We often see the negative in a situation, rather than look at it differently.
Over the years, I have found myself in many situations, that I have thought, why me? Or panicked and saw the negative in the situation, worried about the future, taken things personal and consumed myself with a bitter feeling.Continue Reading…
I cannot think of the amount of time I worried what people thought of me, or the amount of people that would get upset about what other people has said about them. I have wasted many hours getting upset about people and what they think or say about me.
That old saying, that sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me !
The truth is word do hurt ! BUT we cannot change what people think of us, or say, what we can do is change our mindset and start to think that they do not mean anything to us.
Relationships in any capacity takes work. This could be personal, family and work, any relationship takes 2 people to make it work.
I was asked recently to comment on why we should embrace body positivity and the impact of the perfection of bodies on majority of reality TV.
This is something I feel passionate about. Why ? It has taken me personally, years to accept who I am as a person and what I look like.
Now I’m not saying I don’t like to give things a helping hand ( as I like to call it) …. lotions, potions, colours, tans etc….
But I have stopped fat diets and constantly critiquing every lump and bump on my body.
WOW I cannot believe that we are now in June 2021 .. my last blog was Jan 2021 … I cannot believe that it has been so long … SO where have I been, what has been happing in the world of JSP ?
Well, we are now slowly coming out of this lockdown, we are starting to gain a slight normality, the sun has shone for a few days, so I am feeling rather happy. I am going to write about the changes and the feelings we have about trying to get back to some normality, later in the month.
But back to me… ( lol) Continue Reading…
Wow wow wow… where had 2020 gone, we are now in 2021 and last blog I wrote was November.
So Happy New Year to you all.
Time just seems to skip by and just like that I am now in my mid 40’s. OMG how id it happen, I am still 21 in my head!!
I always thought by 2021 we would be using some type of space ship to travel and all be in space suits or something, with robots as pets.
So its a new year and I always think I should feel like a new person on the 1st Jan, wake up and think, right I am going to do this and be this and am a new person, I am going to stop this, stop eating, take quick fixes, anything to change me…. … BUT you know what 2020 has taught me ? I am ok as I am ! Seriously, I can truthfully say I have accepted who I am as a person, what I weigh, what i look like, lumps and bumps included.
Well what a year 2020 has been!!
I don’t think we will ever see another year like it, or let’s hope and pray we don’t.
We are now in November with only 8 weeks until Christmas, so I have been reflecting on the past few months as I prepare to have Christmas in the UK for the first time in 16 years…. Usually we are lying by a pool, enjoying and ice cold gin & tonic on Christmas day. This year, it will be costal del dinas, the gin and tonic will be present though,
Reflecting on this yea has been a total roller coaster for me, as I am sure it has for many.
Wow, September. where has the time gone this year? 3 months until Christmas. How has that happed.
What a year 2020 has been for us all I am sure.
It has been a while since my last blog, but in my defence, I have had one hell of a few months.
Life has taken over and some exciting news along the way.
I haven’t written anything for a few weeks now, I felt a bit blocked ( I know writers block for a blog, who knew).
This week I felt I needed to discuss something that I have struggled with for years and still do. I am sure we all do at times and some people may let it effect them forever ! That is taking things personal and to heart !
But I am going to share a personal story that happened only last week. Not all the details, but the moral of the story.
How long has it been, since this madness of lockdown? Who knows, I have lost track of time and the days!
I had week off blogging last week, but during that time, I was thinking ( dangerous) and various things in the past, but also the various sayings and affirmations I love so much !
That saying that past is in the past, leave it there, is a favourite of mine, but recently, I have found it hard to not think back, due to being in house a lot and having time to think, reflect back, think of things that has happened and things that was done.
I will be honest, it doesn’t do me any good to keep thinking back and thinking, what if or why, or I should have done this.
Hindsight is wonderful !
Escapement – the need to get away from it all.
So another week in this lock down situation and I know I for one, am feeling the need to know the outcome, the need to start thinking of something to look forward too.
I was very much, there is nothing we can do, we have to go with it.. But as other areas and countries start to get back to some sort of normality, I cant help feeling envious. Also feeling of sadness, about the whole situation, business that may not open, people that have lost loved ones and the lack of understanding as to why this happened.
In normal circumstance, we have had holidays, caravan escapes and days out with friends to plan, all things to look forward too, but this year has seen life almost cancelled.
These last couple of weeks, I have felt the need to just escape from it all. I can go anywhere, but how can I turn my mind away from things.
I am usually positive and confident to the future, I try to always keep my mind positive but even I am starting to feel the drain and drag of this situation. The actual monotony and fear of what is to come also.
Judgement.. “Having or displaying an overly critical point of view”
We all judge don’t we? I often say that no one has the right to judge you, un less they have walked on the moon
twice, in a pair of Jimmy Choos ! But truth is , we all judge in some way. We look at someone and we judge them
for their looks, their clothes, their car, house, everything. Why? Someone said to me, its human nature to judge,
but is it ? Does it actually say more about us as a person, if we are over critical to others?
Do we judge people to help us feel better about ourselves, is it because we lack our own acceptance?
I know I have judged others and in all honesty i don’t know why. I can have opinion of a person, I may not like them, but I don’t have the right to judge them on how they live their life, or their opinions and views. ITs their choice as it is my choice to live my life as I want.
We do also subconsciously judge, someone said yesterday, that if she says she’s a single parent, she can see their faces and make a judgment, however if she’s say she’s a widowed parent, people totally change and ask questions.
Does society tell us our judgements?
Hi all ,
Well another week in this cornovirus madness and as this lock down, is starting to ease, can we see light at the end of the tunnel?
Its been weeks of shops shut, not seeing people, family, friends, working from home and lets face it,
its been a total weird, mad time. However as this starts to ease and many want to get back to normal and back to the office,
get out into pubs and restaurants, there are others that may be anxious and worried about a return to normality.
Before this happened, many people had a crazy, manic life, working all hours , social life, kids, trying to fit
everything in, being all to everyone. But I have heard so many people, saying they are worried about
going back to a crazy, manic life and they have enjoyed the total relaxation and quiet time, more peaceful and enjoying time with family.
Start of another week and we are still in this lock down situation.
Let me ask you a question? Have you changed during this time?
I think I have, truthfully and I do think its for the better. Change is normal, natural and inevitable in life.
Over my lifetime, I have had some major changes in my life and with those changes, its normal, for you as a person
to grow, develop and change. John Fischer, who developed something called the change curve, shown in this post
Which shows us the feelings and emotions we go through when we transition or change. I am sure we have all experienced some of these feeling and emotions recently during this pandemic. I know I have gone through every emotion on this curve in a day.
Yesterday I was reading a lovely book and one of the characters was trying to fit in with a family,
her friend kept saying just be you.
I wrote about becoming you again, but today I want to look at acceptance, accepting yourself and who you are,
your choices, decisions and feeing happy and accepting of yourself.
There is so many people ready to pass judgment, give their opinions and wanting to tell you how to live your life.
I am a firm believer in other peoples opinions and judgment of me, is none of my business. Continue Reading…
I know I have had lots of bad days over the years. We all do and you know what… its ok !
This last week, I have had a really bad few days, things getting to me, thinking too much, being on my own all day every day and feeling like its ground hog day !
I am trying to stay positive, think positive and be positive…. BUT OMG its hard. It really is!
Personally, the lockdown hadn’t bothered me too much, I suppose I thought it will only be a few weeks, I like my home and being on my own, but now as we enter 9/ 10 weeks, its pretty scary, also the never ending news about this pandemic, the opinions of so many people, the facts and figures, there. Is no getting away from it and its not good for anyone’s mental health, to constantly think about this. So, I have started to limit the amount of news I watch and interaction on social media. I turned off all notifications, so I can choose if I want. I have also deleted apps off phone on days, so if I want to look, I have to go to the laptop.
We have heard this word a lot, especially over the past few months.
What is it?
Do I have it?
What can I do?
Why do I have it?
All questions I have asked myself and I am sure many, if not most people have suffered from anxiety, at some point or on an occasion in their life.
“Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe:
The first time I can remember feeling totally overanxious, was in a supermarket at Christmas a few years ago. There was so much noise and so many people, I felt that my heart was going to stop, I couldn’t breathe, I was sweating, I couldn’t think, I had to leave the store fast and the tears wouldn’t stop. I was scared, that was the feeling I had, total fear.
Good morning all.
It is VE Day and a bank holiday, hopefully the sun will shine.
Its such a testing time for us all, with working from home, lockdown, furlough, kids home all day and really
we don’t have an end in sight.
I was thinking back, to how exhausted I was, running around the country trying to do so much and wishing I
could work from home all the time and have more time to spend at home, I would be more relaxed and less tired. … Be careful what you wish for !
A journey to feeling confident and believing in you!
Self-confidence, self-belief, self-love, etc all words that we see posted all over the world of social media.
But it’s easy to say this, but what is it? How do we become these things, especially when we have been on
some sort of rollercoaster and lost who we are as a person?
Life is hard, you may have had a baby, a divorce, traumatic events, hitting a milestone birthday, day to day life is stressful and all of these things just get on top of us, suddenly we are 35/ 40/ 50 and we think wow , what happened , who am I ?
Personally I lost myself, after a vast range of events in a very short space of time, moving to Wales, divorce, remarry, back to university, new job, weight loss ( not in a healthy way, but more on that later) then finally, the nail in the coffin ( so to speak) was my parents passed away suddenly .
There I was one day with a lovely little family, nice house and then what seemed like overnight,Continue Reading…
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